So, anxiety can be an extremely controlling, riddling, invasive thing. To others, it’s simply just “nerves”, but to us whom suffer in secret, it’s so much more.
So, as someone whom has experienced a lot of anxiety throughout my life, I would very much like to share with you some tips that were shared with me, that got me through those especially rough days. And I hope with all my heart, they help you, or at least offer you some insight.
- Firstly, find a room in your house you consider your safe haven, your safe place.
- Then, decorate this room with anything you fancy. Whether that be fairy lights (my personal favourite), printed quotes, floral arrangements, candles, anything. Anything that will uplift you, relax you, and help you find inner peace, in order to breathe again.
- Open up the pages of your favourite book. Nothing dark, nothing that can trigger you, something light hearted, quite airy. My go to is always Jill Mansell novels (yes, quite the romantic I am).
- Turn on some tunes, be it through headphones or through a speaker. Music has such control over our emotions, and be incredibly influencing. So, listen to your favourite jam, that gets your blood flowing, your feet tapping, your lips smiling. I don’t care what genre, what era, or what singer/band you choose. Find something that helps you see sense.
- Light some candles. Lavender candles in particular, can be most relaxing. Find whatever candle you prefer. This is all for you, after all. The scent travels around the room, and brings with it a hint of tranquillity. Candles, for me, possess an peculiar power. They can relax you, at times of extreme stress.
- Write down what you are feeling, your thoughts, on a piece of paper, in a notebook, or perhaps a diary. Say what you feel, describe the sensations, share how fed up of being anxious you are. And once you’re finished with that piece of paper, I want you to tear it to pieces, and burn it. Anxiety has no control over you, so let it burn. Let it turn to ash, for it is nothing.
- Do what you love and what truly distracts your mind, what truly relaxes and calms you, whether that be taking pictures, writing stories, doing makeup, going for walks, cycling, swimming, reading, drawing, painting; the list is endless. Do what you’re meant to do, what feeds your soul.
- Have a bath. Trust me, I avoided baths for quite some time, but I fell in love with them last year. Create so many bubbles, that all you can see is foam. Light candles, bring in a book, and switch on your music. And literally all you have to do, is lie in water, and let it soak up your anxieties. Simple.
- Look after yourself. Don’t neglect your routines, start up new ones if you have to. Create a nightly routine of washing your face and moisturizing. Don’t neglect yourself, trust me, it’s not good for you. Keeping up with your personal hygiene does wonders. Even consider doing a face mask, twice a week. They are the most nourishing thing for your skin, and can help you to feel much better. And of course, drink water.
- Name your anxiety. Give he devil on your shoulder a name. This way, you can tell it to f***k off personally. For example, I have named my anxiety ‘Trumpy’ (yes, you guessed correctly, after the “President” Of The United States, whom I absolutely despise). It’s a very helpful idea, and one I use constantly. Whatever that little voice tells you, don’t listen to it, don’t give it the time of day. It’s not worth it, but you’re worth it.
With all of this rambling, I feel as if I should include one more bit of advice, the most important tip; Don’t be too hard on yourself. There are days when you’ll completely ignore this list, and days where you refuse to do anything. And that’s okay, that’s fine. As long as you’re looking after yourself, both mentally and physically, you’re doing just fine. Don’t let anxiety win. You are capable of incredible things, please don’t let it tear you down.
I would also like to inform you, that I am not a mental health professional, I am not a psychiatrist, I am not an expert, I am simply a girl whom suffers with severe anxiety. I just want to help and reassure that life can be good, and easy.
P.S. I’m afraid I won’t be posting for the rest of the week, as I currently have Bronchitis, so I’m taking some time off for a few days. See you soon. xo
‘You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.’